A relationship knowledgeable reveals the best way to transfer on from YOUR ex’s infidelity

Vanessa Feltz’s break up from her ‘dishonest’ ex-fiancé Ben Ofoedu has dominated showbiz headlines in latest days.

However after the broadcaster, 60, admitted that her 16-year relationship ending was a ‘horrible shock’ – but one she’s decided to not be ‘derailed’ by, what’s one of the simplest ways to deal with being cheated on?

UK-based relationship knowledgeable Tina Wilson informed FEMAIL: ‘You will need to stay calm like Vanessa seems to be doing, and transfer ahead, in case you determine you possibly can’t restore the connection together with your ex.’

It emerged on the weekend that Vanessa and Phats & Small singer Ben, 50, had parted methods after he was allegedly untrue whereas touring UK vacation parks together with his digital dance music act.

Vanessa informed TalkTV viewers on Monday: ‘I can’t be the one particular person within the nation nursing a damaged coronary heart, can I? I’m completely decided to place my finest foot ahead, to maintain on trucking, all that form of stuff. Hold calm and keep it up.’

Vanessa Feltz’s break up from her ‘dishonest’ ex-fiancé Ben Ofoedu (pictured collectively in 2015) has dominated showbiz headlines in latest days

Right here, Tina reveals how finest to maneuver on after you’ve got been cheated on by a associate – together with reminding your self the connection in all probability had belief points all alongside, chopping all ties together with your ex and letting your family members approve your future dates…


Tina, founding father of Wingman, mentioned: ‘Remind your self the dishonest was the catalyst for one thing being off within the relationship to start with.

‘Communication and honesty is vital to surviving infidelity but when the belief is gone perhaps it is time to settle for there have been belief points within the relationship which may have been current for a very long time.

‘The connection might need imploded at any level so it’s higher to take these steps now than when it may very well be more durable to maneuver on sooner or later.’


UK-based relationship knowledgeable Tina Wilson (pictured) informed FEMAIL: ‘You will need to stay calm like Vanessa seems to be doing, and transfer ahead, in case you determine you possibly can’t restore the connection together with your ex.’

‘Most individuals will advise you to maintain busy, so that you don’t dwell in your feelings however in some methods dealing with as much as your emotions is all a part of the transferring on progress,’ mentioned the knowledgeable.

‘Due to this fact, as a substitute of preserving busy to maintain busy – cease. As a substitute, hold busy by doing one thing for you and your future and is extra productive than consuming your sorrows away in a bar.

‘Plan a transfer or redecorate your flat or home so you possibly can cleanse your ex out of your life for good. It’s also an excellent alternative to let go of any reminders which you might need round you.

‘Finally, you’ll really feel uplifted and motivated by the smallest adjustments and you might be beginning an thrilling new chapter in your life – even when that, for instance, is sitting in your model new comfortable lounge together with your designer rug.’


Tina mentioned: ‘It may be tempting to textual content, name or verify your ex’s social media profile, however cease. Minimize off all communication, each direct and oblique.

‘Though, you would possibly inform your self you might be simply curious and wish to see what they’re as much as, by doing so it exhibits you continue to can’t allow them to go.

‘It isn’t wholesome, and also you gained’t have the ability to transfer on. Cease any unhealthy habits of their tracks now.

‘I might go one step additional in case you are having a tough time and minimize anybody carefully linked to your ex out of your social circle.

‘The nervousness of them arising in dialog and even worse, bumping into them, will put your proper again at sq. one.’


‘It is perhaps time to acknowledge that your pals know you finest and it provides you with extra confidence if you already know your new date is buddy accredited,’ recommended the knowledgeable.

‘It may take loads of the time you’d have wasted with the mistaken particular person out of the equation. You’ll really feel safer and motivated to seek out somebody new in case you let your pals or household take the lead.

‘Your buddy can information you in the proper course which is strictly what you want proper now. It isn’t a time to second guess or fall for a similar traits time and again.’


Tina defined: ‘Self-doubt and insecurity might be heightened whenever you’ve simply damaged up together with your ex.

‘Above all, at all times keep in mind, it’s by no means your fault in case you’ve been cheated on so it’s vital to by no means blame your self or suppose there’s something mistaken with you.

‘Subconsciously or consciously altering issues about your self, may the truth is forestall you from discovering your future associate as you might be dwelling life in disguise.

‘This may hold you caught attempting to recover from your ex for longer. Due to this fact, be sturdy and self-assertive by embracing who you might be and reminding your self they have been fortunate to have you ever.’


‘Companions come and go however true mates keep in your life endlessly,’ mentioned Tina. ‘Additionally if you need a recent startit is an efficient tip to make new mates that you just don’t have to repeatedly speak concerning the break up with.

‘In case you proceed to convey up your ex with your pals then you could possibly forestall them from desirous to spend time with you sooner or later so keep away from doing this.

‘If you wish to open up to a buddy simply achieve this in the proper setting and never on an evening out when you’re presupposed to be having fun with your self and taking your thoughts off your ex.’